🎈All THAT MATTERS IS JOY

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Joy is the purpose of achieving, accumulating wealth, meditating, and doing inner work.

If you're not living life with more joy, your efforts are failing.

If your meditation practice not translating into more joy, then there's a problem.

If your wealth is not translating into more joy, then there's a problem.

If your personal growth courses are not translating into more joy, then there's a problem.

The goal of all my inner work is to live life with more laughs. Laughs at myself, others, and the insanity of the world.

When I stumble or fall, I want to laugh.

When someone tries to offend or upset me, I want to laugh.

When I make a stupid mistake, I want to laugh.

Joy doesn't only improve your quality of life. It improves your physical health. It reduces your stress. It enhances your relationships. It increases your cognitive performance. It makes you more creative.

Search up joy on Pubmed and you'll believe me.

Joy is very much a panacea. It improves so many different parts of your life.

So, it's important to work on your joyfulness and to implement principles that will help you laugh more, take life less seriously, and find the joy in your situation.

If you don't make joy your yardstick, you may end up a depressed billionaire like Elon Musk. Although he has everything available to him, his mood goes from mania to depression often and his stress is beyond imaginable. According to his biography, he once stayed in his room alone all night during his brother's birthday party in Mexico.

Joyfulness, the trait of having joy, can be reinforced. You're not born with or without it. The purpose of this guide is to show you the 3 step protocol that has helped me become more joyful, to the extent that people always ask me: "What drugs are you on? You can't be THIS happy sober."

I began my life as an anxious, lonely boy with anger management. My sister and I would get in terrible fights, I would sometimes scream at my parents, and I was too anxious to speak to girls throughout high school. When I lost in sports, I would hate myself. I would beat myself up and suffer. When I got fired from my first job, I was depressed for months.

I was not as resilient as I am now.

Today, I can handle social media hate, psychological warfare, assholes sitting next to me on airplanes, tough feedback, and ostracization.

My journey with joy began when I started to journal as a daily ritual. Then, I started to optimize my health and mindset. Then, I did meditation and darkness retreats. And finally, I built a community of playful people who celebrate my joyfulness.

Everyone is on a different journey, and I've been lucky to get onto the path of joyfulness. As you read on and practice the principles in this guide, be gentle with yourself. Take baby steps. And remember that changing deep-rooted habits is a challenge for all humans. Celebrate whatever progress you make.

Let's go.

Step 1: Cultivate Joy From Within

OPTIMIZE YOUR PHYSIOLOGY

Joy is a physiological state that comes easily to people with relaxed, healthy bodies. Joy does not come easily to people with inflamed, malnourished, stressed, dehydrated, or sleep-deprived bodies. The first step to becoming more joyful is to create the fertile soil for joy — your physiology.

Stress, dehydration, inflammation, sleep deprivation, pain. These are the barriers to joy. So begin your path to joy with your physical health.

REGULATE YOURSELF.

There's another barrier to joy having to do with the nervous system specifically... adrenaline. When the body is in fight or flight mode, joy is prevented. This is called dysregulation. Anxiety, fear, anger, and panic are all forms of dysregulation.

To access joy, the body must be relaxed, safe, and accepted. The body must be in a rest and digest mode. The fastest way to get into this mode is the physiological sigh. Google it. It's a technique I use every day.

USE SOCIAL DEFENCE SYSTEMS.

One of the most common causes of dysregulation is other humans. It's contagious. So a defense system is necessary. The first defense system is awareness. When you become aware of your dysregulation, you gain power over it. You stop acting on it and allow yourself to make a choice.