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GET INSPIRED QUOTES
We find we are all very much alike.
We all want to love more and fear less.
—John Halcyon Styn, Creator of Hug Nation Burning Man Camp
Self-efficacy: The belief that you can do it if you try.
—Angela Duckworth, Author of GRIT
ELEVATE YOUR SELF
Nonverbally encourage your guests.
On my zoom calls, people have noticed that I use a lot of hand gestures. I do this 👌 and I put my hands on my heart. I nod my head. I wave my hands. This form of listening goes beyond active listening. This is ‘empowerment listening.’
Be intentional with word choice and phrasing.
Recently, I came up with the phrase: “Wishing you an oxytocin-filled day.” It stuck and it’s now in my email signature. I also recently re-did the description for my life purpose: To Give the Elixir of Life—Human Connection. In summary, be aware of the words you choose to communicate over email and messaging.
Practice vagal breathing before bed.
I heard about this technique from Jamie Wheal in his new book: Rapture. Vagal breathing is about activating the parasympathetic relaxation response in our bodies. It involves slow exhales and belly breathing.
FROM MY LIFE AND VYVE
I realized that I had unhealthy beliefs about romance.
Two of my best friends recently pointed out that I am quite pessimistic about finding my dream partner. And that I believe that I can transcend the hard-wired longing for a romantic partner. After a late-night conversation with my bestie Charlotte, I realized that I hadn’t explored romantic intimacy in all my human connection research.
I have been single for most of my life. I have been OK with this fact by using the following logic: (1) I am obsessed with my life purpose, and most men do not have a strong life purpose so they just chase love. (2) I have bountiful intimacy and nourishing relationships in my life. Thanks, Gary, Char, and Michael.
But, has this logic prevented me from exploring perhaps the deepest form of human connection? I think so. So, recently, I have practicing more opportunistism. I have been reaching out to more potential partners, not for their potential involvement in VYVE, but for romantic involvement. What a blurry line it is… 😅
So far, I have not found the one. Any encouraging words, my friend?
Prioritize trust instead of transaction.
I had some incredibly inspiring conversations this week. My network has been on the upswing. I have been forming new relationships right, left, and center.
What has made it easy has been focussing on the relationship, not the sale. Of course I want all the human connection professionals I meet to join VYVE and form coalitions with others. But, what I have learnt is that relationships must form first.
Before people join VYVE or take on the philosophy, they must know, trust, and like me (Thanks Melanie for these words).
So all my calls have been about building trust. I share resources, ask good questions, and express my mission and authenticity. I often connect them with people after the call. I show them how I run my business.
Pretty much, I share some good vibes and then they are much more receptive to joining VYVE and hearing about my business.
VYVE MEMBER SPOTLIGHT
Hayley Flinn, our resident Ecstatic Dance Facilitator
Hayley and Mia just launched SELF-LOVE fest in Vancouver Canada. Book your flights, friends, because these two know how to facilitate transformation.
WHAT I DID THIS WEEK
WHAT I CREATED
How to Bring People Together in a Pandemic. Article.
HUMAN CONNECTION PROS I MET
Peter Benjamin. Founder of the Connection Institute.
Jason Nemer. Creator of AcroYoga. Facilitator-Trainer.
Gabe DeRita. Connection and Life Purpose Coach.
GEMS I DISCOVERED
Relationships versus Transactions. Podcast.
I CHALLENGE YOU TO…
Go for three short walks today. Just get outside.
Remind fellow human connection professionals you care about their success and well-being.
Be thoughtful—Forward this email to them.
Thank yourself for reading this because your body and belonging matter.
Jacques W. Martiquet
The Party Scientist
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