💢The Party Scientist's Lab—EXPERIMENT #25

  
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—Jacques W. Martiquet, The Party Scientist

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🔬 EXPERIMENT #25—RESULTS 🔬

Over the weekend, I was leading an adult summer camp. I led multiple experiences, including a pillow fight, a ratchet dance workshop, and plenty of karoake. Lots of lessons about human connection in this edition.

Principles I Learnt from Allies

Hit reply. Tell me what resonated or share a principle!

In every moment, you have the ability to choose love. When we open our hearts, when we take off our armour, we spread this in others.
—Thank you Nicole Gibson, CEO of LoveOutLoud

The essence of authentic communication is the explicit expression of your desires in your relationships. Don’t hide them.
—Thank you Michael Armstrong, brother, CEO of Deepshift

Digital optimism is the path to a more connected happy planet. We must not abandon the use of technology and hide in eco-villages. We, as human connection professionals, must learn how to scale intimacy.
—Thank you Solon Teal, friend, CEO of we.talk.social

Celebrate others when they confess to you. When they confess their mental health, when they confess they’ve done wrong. When you celebrate the disclosures by others, you destigmatize honesty.
—Thank you Natalia, my co-facilitator, Comedian and School Teacher

True leadership is about putting yourself below your team members. Make it known that your role is to serve them, to coach them. Not to teach them.
—Thank you Julie, Cybersecurity Pro and Woke Manager

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Stories, Lessons, and Fails

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Facilitation

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Notice disengagement, but don’t let it kill your confidence.

Noticing disengagement is the first step of intervening when your event is not going as planned. But when your observation leads you to give up or it sparks thoughts like “it’s over, I have failed” then you have a problem. The key is to celebrate disengagement—this is an opportunity to adjust your facilitation to your audience.

I facilitated a lot of exercises over the weekend. My favourite was the ratchet dance party. I created a playlist of rap and hip hop music containing a lot of invitations to shake your butt. It was very playful and edgy. Let’s just say, I wouldn’t offer this to a corporate client.

At the beginning of the experience, Natalia and I educated everyone about consent. We gave a specific hand symbol for people to use to communicate “I’m good, thank you.” Then, we lead some playfully sensual dance moves.

About 15 minutes into the experience, I noticed a collection of venue staff leave. Inside, it hurt. Why were they leaving? This was such a unique experience! I had never facilitated anything like it. And then, more people left.

I noticed myself getting demoralized, so I switched on hyperdrive. I caught myself. Immediately, I jumped into the crowd and gave so much love and attention to the 20 or so humans remaining. When I get demoralized, I have a choice—admit defeat and let a chain reaction of disengagement happen, or spice up the event with more electricity.

I spiced it up. After 15 minutes or so, everyone was having an incredible time. And then, I announced the lap dance performance. Edgy, I know..

At the end of the night, everyone was laughing and lit up.

In summary, lean into the experience when you notice disengagement.

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Entrepreneurship

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Talk partnerships and synergies.

When you’re meeting someone for the first time, don’t forget to talk about their life purpose and goals. Can you help them? Is there more potential to this relationship than the connection in-the-moment? When you discuss how you might be able to help each other, the relationship can deepen to a purpose-driven relationship. Not just another social interaction.

Over the weekend, I met a lot of highly spiritual people. Now… did I develop purpose-driven relationships with a lot of them? No. They were beautiful interactions, but I really don’t think the relationships will last.

The longest-lasting relationships in my life are co-creative and purpose-driven. This means that there is a practical value exchange in the relationship. Example: They’re a human connection professional or conscious entrepreneur and we can teach each other things. Or, they’re a biohacker and we can exchange health wisdom.

Sometimes, I forget to explore this ‘mutual value exchange potential’ with people I meet. I forget to figure out how I can amplify their work. I forget to look for the partnership potential. To network more successfully and deepen your relationships beyond the joy of the moment, inquire more about how you can partner with the people you meet.

So next time you meet someone, ask them about their mission and vision. How can you help them fulfill it?

Find the ‘mutual value exchange potential.’

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Performance

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Drink water. More water and better water.

A large majority of people are dehydrated, leading to physical exhaustion and drowsiness. To address this, I have built a habit—the first thing I do when I wake up is pour a large glass of water and go outside in the sun. I also always have a glass of water beside my computer. This ensures I stay hydrated.

But being a water pro goes deeper than this! Recently I learnt from Dave Asprey the power of EZ water, a specific form of water that forms in our cells. To increase the amount of EZ water in your body, blend your water before drinking it, take infrared saunas, and drink raw vegetable juices or fresh spring water. This water gives you more energy.

For a long time, I have neglected the power of water. I encourage you to pay more attention to the water you drink. Check your water quality and purchase a filter if necessary.

And don’t forget to get those infrared rays!

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Insider Opportunities for the Lab

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1. PlayLab

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In the online Laboratory community, I will be leading a masterclass on routines and habits. This is for people who have self-invested in my subscription, for 20 USD/month. It is taking place in August.


The Party Scientist’s World 🥼

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Post I created—The art of personalized giving

On Instagram, I posted about the best gift I have ever received. Thank you Jacob from the All-in-onesie team.

Learn about giving

Human I believe in—Solon Teal, CEO of Talk.Social

Solon and I had an invigorating chat about scaling intimacy. It’s crazy how much closeness and alignment can be created in 20 minutes. Check out his project. It’s an ambitious one.

Learn about him

Project I believe in—Seek Healing

I learnt about this social health services company from my friend Jason Digges. They are rethinking rehab and the solution to the opioid crisis, by integrating social health interventions into mainstream mental health services. I love their science-based approach.

Learn about public health

What I listened to—Sleep Hacking, Decreasing Anxiety

I listened to Tim Ferris’ latest episode with a neurobiologist. Get ready for some body and mind optimization.

Listen to the podcast

What I read—How to Start Prioritizing People Over Products and Creativity Over Consumption

Buddhist Economics—this article echoes some of the beliefs and research in my manifesto. Prepare for your money beliefs to change.

It is not wealth that stands in the way of liberation but the attachment to wealth; not the enjoyment of pleasurable things but the craving for them.

Learn new economics

Who I researched—Human Connection Professionals

Jennifer, CEO of Seek Healing, Social Health Non-profit

Heidi Cuppari, CEO of Dreamtank, Intergenerational Entrepreneurship

Michael Armstrong, CEO of DeepShift, Death and Mortality Educator

Who I'm following


Human Connection Challenge
—Film yourself dancing in public.

Dancing in public spreads human connection and trust. Tag me on IG Stories @JacquesMartiquet and I will send you some encouragement!


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International Party Scientist
BSc. Pharmacology

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💢EXPERIMENT #24—The Party Scientist's Lab

  
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You’re one of 1002 human connection professionals who read or listen to this. Welcome back, friend 🤗

Can you share this with one facilitator, community-builder, or human connection professional? It would mean a lot to me.

—Jacques W. Martiquet, The Party Scientist

EARN RIDICULOUS GIFTS


🔬 EXPERIMENT #24—RESULTS 🔬

Principles I Learnt from Allies

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Exploring interpersonal triggers deepens trust in your relationship. Get curious about how they trigger you. Your relationship is strengthened every time you overcome triggers together.

—Virginia Salas Kastilio, CEO of Humans I Trust, Visionary
PS: That’s Virginia in the photo above. She’s a part of my soul tribe.

Create a list of leaders who you admire. Better yet, make friends with them. It will inspire you to keep moving forward.

—Stefano Sacchi, CEO of EPICLLAMA, Experience Designer

Identify communities, contribute value to them, and then distribute your content or product through them.

—Edric Subur, CEO of Warmspace.io, Intimate Spaces Creator

In designing an experience, create a physical gateway into an alternate reality. Create a boundary for your experience so people know they have left the real world and have entered yours.

—Jordan Kallman, CEO of Social Concierge, Experience Designer

Give to givers and matchers. They fuel you. Don’t give to takers. They take advantage of your generosity and you will be used up.

—Jacques W. Martiquet, ME

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Insider Offers for You

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Stefano from EPICLLAMA has extended an invitation to our lab for Onion Hour—the wildest networking experience ever. This experience is designed for people who lead teams, who appreciate a workplace of belonging. If you lead a team, check it out.

LEARN GAMES


Stories, Lessons, and Fails

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Facilitation

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Experiment until you fail.

Good experimentation will lead to positive and negative results. If you never collect negative results (your technique didn’t work, people did not like it), you’re not experimenting hard enough.

The essence of trying new things is being open to mistakes. I facilitated a games night this week. I experimented with a few new games, and I felt that people were not really into them.

Upon reflecting on my facilitation, I was uncomfortable when I witnessed that people were losing interest. Instead, I could have reinjected energy into the activities. I was insufficiently role-modelling joyful engagement.

After this experience, I realized: I don’t make enough mistakes. I do not fail enough. I am not working at my edge. And so, this Adult Summer Camp I am leading this week will be different.

I am going into full ‘Lab Experiment Mode.’ I’ll tell you about the fails!

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Entrepreneurship

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Work less. Network more.

Relationships can lead to disruptive change. One person can change your business forever by unlocking a new opportunity or presenting a new trajectory. Incorporate relationship-building into your entrepreneurial routine. Chances are, eventually, you will meet someone that will launch you forward exponentially.

For the last week, I have spent a lot of time in my room working on my newsletter and its new referral system. My hosts have been busy outside at the fire, chatting the night away with their guests.

Now, I wouldn’t chat the night away with anyone. I prefer the idea of strategic socialization—being present in social environments with people who are excited about your mission. People who are likely to help you.

As I write this, I am reminded of a book I read called Sell Or Be Sold, by Grant Cordone. This guy is intense. In the book, he says ‘Eating lunch alone is a fool’s errand.' What he means, is it’s important to put yourself out there and meet new people as a habit.

I have cultivated this habit in my life, and it has led to amazing connections and disruptive jumps in progress in my business.

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Performance

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Get into ketosis in the morning.

Ketosis is a different metabolic state of the body. Instead of breaking down sugar, the body breaks down fat. When this happens, your body produces more energy. And the brain operates at higher capacity. You can get into ketosis in the morning by skipping breakfast and consuming MCTs.

This is why I always drink fatty coffee in the morning. The caffeine and coconut oil blended together result in the flooding of my bloodstream with ketones. This gives me a tremendous boost in mental focus. It also benefits my long-term health. Ketosis leads to the breakdown of fats, where most toxins are stored.

Ketosis has detoxifying, focus-elevating, and hunger-eliminating effects. Try intermittent fasting first if you want to start getting the benefits. Also, don’t eat wheat or bread.

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The Party Scientist’s World 🥼

Article I wrote—The Fun Quotient

RAISE FQ

Human I believe in—David Redish, Men’s Circles Facilitator

David is a retreat creator and shadow work facilitator. We were discussing the importance of incorporating activities into our experiences that involve interacting with or benefitting the outside world.

LEARN FROM HIM

Project I believe in—EverLand

EverLand is a remote property and retreat center where I am hosting my adult summer camp over the weekend. The CEO is a Burning Man-values advocate and community innovator—his mission is to rethink how community is practiced.

LEARN MORE

What I listened to—Dancing in the Streets

Barbara Ehrenreich chronicles the suppression of festivity. She hypothesizes that the current mental health crisis is related to the degradation of communal ritual and ecstatic partying in our communities.

LEARN THE HISTORY OF JOY

What I posted—The definition of Soultribe

I defined my soul tribe. Reflecting on the people that fire me up and lead to the most nourishment has been the most important reflection of my life.

FIND YOUR SOULTRIBE

What I read—Lessons from Twitch and Substack

I have been geeking out about the creator economy. Creators run niche communities and there are numerous platforms that enable them to monetize their communities. Example: OnlyFans

LEARN ABOUT COMMUNITY

Who I researched—Human Connection Professionals

Kimberly Han, Connector and Community-Builder, CEO of Connect

Salman Hatta, DJ and Facilitator, Blogger

WHO I'M FOLLOWING


Human Connection Challenge
—Identify your soul-tribe, then tell them.

Reply to me with your reflections. What criteria did you use? Share your experience with me on IG Stories @JacquesMartiquet!

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BSc. Pharmacology

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🎈 PARTY SCIENCE EXPERIMENT #23

  
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You’re one of 1002 human connection professionals who read or listen to this 🥼

My objective with this newsletter is to help you:

Scale your human connection business
Master designing & facilitating experiences
Elevate your mindset, performance & vitality

And most of all: Give more humans the elixir of life—connection!

Help others elevate themselves 🔝

Because you believe in giving this elixir, can you share this with one facilitator, community-builder, or human connection professional? It would mean a lot to me and boost your rapport—they’ll thank you for it.

Share The Party Scientist's Lab


🔬 EXPERIMENT #23—RESULTS 🔬

Principles I Learnt from Allies

Open space helps new things emerge.

Taking extended breaks facilitates disruptive change and revelation, whereas being busy and ‘keeping your head down’ restricts us to incremental change and tunnel vision.

—Katya Stepanov, Facilitator and CEO of the Inheritance Project

As a leader, earn respect, do not expect respect.

Each interaction is an opportunity to show your kindness, compassion, understanding, vision and respect for others.

—Peter Sharp, CEO of the Liberators, Festival Professional

Feeling invisible is a crippling symptom of exclusion. Make people feel seen. Say their name. Acknowledge their presence.

—Mark Shapiro, CEO of Lovebomb.app, Kindness Expert

In operating your business, figure out how to do what you love most, as often as possible, then outsource the rest.

—Jason Digges, Co-Founder of Authentic Relating Training, Author


Insider Invitations for You

Authentic Relating Training hosts free community circles every week. If you would like to explore Authentic Relating as a modality for facilitating human connection, I recommend you attend one!


Stories, Lessons, and Fails

Facilitation

Animate yourself.

Expert facilitators modulate their vibe and permeate it through the space. They use their expression to change the energy of everyone else. They embody and feel the energy they seek to create in the room. They leverage the contagiousness of emotion.

Listen to the recording for the full story.

Entrepreneurship

Forget the business plan. Perform short tests.

Formal documentation is not necessary to iterate rapidly. Market research, competitive analysis, and customer profiling are not as necessary as you think. The best source of data is real engagement with the market. Did the market respond to your test?

Listen to the recording for the full story.

Performance

Create cues for movement.

Our bodies are not designed for marathons nor designed for office chairs. Our bodies are designed for constant mild activity. So integrate cues for movement into your day. Walk while on the phone. Do a pushup after brushing your teeth in the morning. Make a list of ‘if, then’ statements.

Listen to the recording for the full story.


Article I wrote
—How to Restore Social Trust.

LEARN ABOUT SOCIAL TRUST

Human I believe in
—Mark Shapiro, CEO of Lovebomb

Mark believes in spreading a daily connection habit. He spearheaded an app for just that. TEDx speaker, kindness advocate, and entrepreneur.

JOIN THE CONNECTION CHALLENGE

Project I believe in
—NeverDoneBefore Community

This is THE community for facilitators who want to upgrade their craft and experiment with completely new facilitation techniques. It features a whole gamut of events, like three per week. Check out their calendar and reach out to them to attend an event as a guest.

LEARN MORE

Podcast I listened to
—November Project Fitness Movement

Brogan Graham is the founder of the November Project, a fitness phenomenon involving strangers, winter months, and community. Learn how the project took flight to 37 cities.

SHARPEN YOUR COMMUNITY-BUILDING

Post I created
—How do you define the good life?

I asked multiple communities about how they define the good life. Read my answer and all the others. Some people got triggered!

LEARN ABOUT POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY

Human Connection Pros I researched—

Katya Stepanov, CEO of the Inheritance Project

Peter Kaas, CEO of Relational Spaces in Denmark

Julia Grace, Founder of The Wave Silent Disco

WHO I'M FOLLOWING


The Human Connection Challenge
—Pose a question to the cashier

This week, I had some terrific, uplifting interactions with staff at Wholefoods and Target. Do you accept the challenge?

Share your experience with me on IG Stories @JacquesMartiquet!


My Insider List is NOT for you, unless…

  1. You want to master the art of creating joy, belonging, & community.

  2. You are someone who loves practicing generosity toward people who do free work with no expectation of anything in return.

  3. You want to receive private invitations to peer support sessions, networking circles, and masterclasses. Led by experts.


Thank yourself for reading this, because your body and belonging matters, be-you-tiful.

Jacques W. Martiquet
International Party Scientist
BSc. Pharmacology

🎈 PARTY SCIENCE EXPERIMENT #22

  
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You’re one of 1002 human connection professionals who read or listen to this 🥼

My objective with this newsletter is to help you:

Scale your human connection business
Master designing & facilitating experiences
Elevate your mindset, performance & vitality

And most of all: Give more humans the elixir of life—connection!

Help others elevate themselves.

Because you believe in giving this elixir, can you share this with one facilitator, community-builder, or human connection professional? It would mean a lot to me and boost your rapport—they’ll thank you for it.

Share The Party Scientist's Lab


🔬 EXPERIMENT #22—RESULTS 🔬

Principles I Learnt from Allies

Too much structure can hinder collective emergence—when the participants start to shape the experience in unimaginable ways.

—David Weber, Musician, Artist, and Facilitator

Tell your journal first. Then your best friend.

—Vanessa, Author of Captivate, CEO of People School

To silly-fy an audience, first open up their bodies through meditation, vocalization, and movement exercises.

—Phil Santos, Author of the Art of Nightlife

Community is your trampoline out of lulls, dips, and darkness. It lifts you higher than before.

—Scott Simons, CEO of Organika


Insider Invitations for You

If you are the CEO of a human connection business, or you regard yourself as a leader in the human connection movement, please reply to me. I am hosting a CEO Empower-Mind—a modified mastermind that incorporates connection, accountability, and giving.

Reminders: My talk at Creative Mornings is happening on July 11. Link. My adult summer camp is happening July 14-19. Reply.


Stories, Lessons, and Fails

Facilitation

Begin with everyone.

When you start an event or workshop, begin with an activity that everyone participates in. Bring everyone into the same room. Ask for participation. Activate prosociality with a moment of togetherness!

I am currently in San Diego, staying with a fellow experience designer named Jacob. He has been the best host. He’s invited me to men’s circles, kink parties, and outdoor dance events.

Jacob is a DJ. So, together, we designed an opening ceremony for his first-ever kink party… I should pause and tell you that this was a little out of my comfort zone. But, whenever I experience this feeling, it’s my cue to push forward and explore. So, I proposed to Jacob a playlist consisting of sing-a-longs, slow motion inspiration, and sexy dance music.

We began the night together, with me on the mic. I gathered everyone in a circle and we peered into each others’ eyes. Then, we closed them and did a visualization together. Followed by dance and crowdsurf therapy.

When you get everyone in the room doing the same thing, it creates a sense of togetherness. It gives your participants common ground. It makes people feel like they’re a member of the group. Too many events, parties, and conferences begin with lecturing—they lack these moments of togetherness.

During your next session, begin with everyone doing the same thing.

Entrepreneurship

Develop standard operating procedures.

A protocol or checklist that reproduces the same result over and over again. This is a standard operating procedure. They are the foundation for consistent value creation and customer satisfaction. They can also be continually improved as your product/experience improves.

I met with Peter, Co-Founder of the Connection Institute and serial entrepreneur. We talked about the difference between working on the business and working in the business.

Working in the business is doing things manually. It’s having responsibility for everything. It’s failing to delegate. It’s burning rubber. It’s doing without thinking of the most effective way of doing. In summary, it’s tunnel-vision.

Working on the business is setting up systems that duplicate your input. Systems include management structures, standard operating procedures, guidelines, checklists, and automations. Working on the business is about taking an outsider’s view and asking: “What must I do to outsource or automate this responsibility so I can do more important things?”

Working on the business is meta. Meta means a level higher. When we take a meta view, we look at the factors and possibilities beyond the thing at hand. We widen our perspective.

Get meta about your business.

Performance

Reset your state of being.

Pauses and resets throughout the day can calm your nervous system. When you identify that you’re worked up, just pause and bring presence to your body. It will pass. Once it passes, you can remind yourself to embody a state of being of service, surrender, and presence.

During a men’s group this week, I shared my spiritual practice. I described how Vipassana, high-dose magic mushrooms with blindfolds on, and 3-day water fasts have led me to huge realizations.

It’s all about your state of being. And the state of being I want to inhabit is one of presence, service, and surrender.

Presence: I want to exist in the now. I don’t want to be thinking of the past or future.

Service: I want to be helping and elevating others, through my peaceful and joyful aura.

Surrender: I want to accept (not resist) the flow of experience. I want to relax into the discomfort of unfortunate and hurtful events.

To remind myself to inhabit this state of being, I monitor myself and reset my body throughout the day. Through exercise, thought, and breath.

Insert Photo of Jacques Resetting.


Podcast I recorded—The Art of Nightlife.

Featuring Phil Santos, community researcher and author. In this episode, we discuss nightlife, and the power of dance and music.

LISTEN

Human I believe in—Kathryn

Kathryn is the Creator of the Radical Listening Project.

“The antidote is for people on all sides of the political spectrum to listen to each other and work together.  Each of us has a role to play in dismantling the wall we've been erecting between us.”

RADICAL LISTENING

Project I believe in—Hear Me

I am so excited about this app: “We all need someone to talk to. HearMe anonymously connects you with an empathetic Listener in under a minute, 24 hours a day - for free. Take charge of your mental health.”

We are so deprived of empathic listening. And so I have a policy: I try to talk less than the person I am with. I focus on them. It’s fun!

LEARN MORE

Article I read—Willpower doesn’t work.

Willpower doesn’t work. Book Summary.

If you don’t shape the environment, it will shape you.

Human Connection Pros I researched—

Jason Digges, Founder of ART, Author of Conflict = Energy

Adam Lippin, CEO of Hear Me App, Entrepreneur

Shasta Nelson, Friendship Expert and Keynote Speaker

WHO I'M FOLLOWING


The Human Connection Challenge
—Thank someone

I share with one person daily how they’ve positively impacted me. Try it. You won’t stop doing it. Share your experience with me on IG Stories @JacquesMartiquet!


My Insider List is not for you, unless…

  1. You want to master the art of creating joy, belonging, & community.

  2. You are someone who loves practicing generosity toward people who do free work with no expectation of anything in return.

  3. You want to receive private invitations to peer support sessions, networking circles, and masterclasses. Led by experts.


Thank yourself for reading this, because your body and belonging matters, be-you-tiful.

Jacques W. Martiquet
International Party Scientist
BSc. Pharmacology

🧪 Party Science Experiment #21

  
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You’re one of 903 human connection professionals who read or listen to this 🥼


Whether you’re here to grow your business, master facilitating belonging, or elevate your mindset & vitality—what unites us is the belief that human connection is the elixir of life 🧪

Because you believe in spreading this elixir, can you share this with one facilitator, community-builder, or human connection professional? It would mean a lot to me.

Share The Party Scientist's Lab


Principles from Allies

Fall in love with your customer’s problem, not your solution.

—Tom Fortes Mayer, Founder of Freemind

You can reach out to anyone you want. You can do anything you want. Just take action consistently.

—Henry, Multi-Versatile Entrepreneur and Traveller

From my experience, it all boils down to delivering the highest value and empowering the receivers to talk about it.

—Myriam, when asked how she’s growing her Facilitator Community


Insider Invitations

SUMMER CAMP—Virginia, the CEO of Humans I Trust, and The Party Scientist are co-hosting a transformational adult summer camp experience in Colorado, July 15-19. There will be human connection games, adventures, morning routines, nature bathing, and more.

APPLY FOR FACILITATOR SUMMER CAMP


Stories, Lessons, and Fails

FACILITATION

Give context—Explain what’s in it for them.

Giving context about the experience before, during, and after facilitation reinforces participation and impact.

Recently, I showed up at a random gathering at Santa Monica beach. My friend @Jeremytalkstostrangers and I were practicing our social reps, as he likes to call them. In other words, we were practicing making a fool of ourselves in public to exercise our tolerance for discomfort. So, I decided that I should party crash this larger Acro Yoga gathering at the beach. It would be the ultimate test of my facilitation ability.

In a slight gap in the music, I got on the mic: “Excuse me. Sorry. Stop. Attention. We got a certified party crash requested at this location. Can we have you raise one finger in the air and point it at someone you love? We’re going to sing a song together.”

You see, I failed to introduce myself. I failed to explain my mission. I failed to tell people about my intentions. It still worked… the whole crowd was singing together in the end. But man, the potential was greater.

I could have created a stronger connection with my guests if I had given more context, on my intentions, my credibility, my values, and my rituals. Who is this guy, what is he doing, and what does he stand for?

Next time I do a party crash to practice my facilitation abilities, I’ll be sure to include those things.

ENTREPRENEURSHIP

Speak to your customer’s mental and physical symptoms.

This is about optimizing the message-market fit—the language you use to sell your product. Mention frustrations, pains, and worries your customer actually experiences. Move away from theory and toward symptoms.

I worked in a public library for 5 hours yesterday. During my peaceful work session, I had a phone call with a mentor. We discussed the marketing mastermind he participated in for 3K.

Together, we explored how he shifted how he communicates his value proposition. Instead of emphasizing the methods for his work, he now emphasizes the pain points of his niche—recurring thoughts they experience, patterns the customer has adopted, beliefs and feelings associated with their situations, and aspirations. Often a great way to communicate all of this is through story.

After resonating with your copy, they want confidence that your method will work for them. So, share your methodology after empathizing with them. First, have them nodding their head: “This is me. This is my problem. This is how I feel. This is how I want to change.”

After they resonate with you and know that you ‘get’ them, that’s when it is time to share the features, benefits, and program specifics. Get specific about exactly what they’re getting and how it will address their pains.

In the case of VYVE, the pains of human connection professionals surface in the form of these thoughts and feelings.

  • I am exhausted and feel like I am constantly grinding.

  • I don’t know how to brand and market my human connection biz.

  • It’s difficult for me to create a livelihood around what I love.

I suggest you make a list as well!

PERFORMANCE

You have 3 hours each day to stretch.


When you’re on the phone. When you’re waiting in line. When you’re having a conversation in the living room. When you’re on a zoom call. These are all opportunities to stretch. The less tension in our bodies, the more joy and connection can emerge. The clearer we can think.

I have been practicing this recently. Getting in the habit of stretching when I can. It leads me to walk more smoothly, sleep more peacefully, and dance more erratically. Especially, neck stretches have reduced my stress.

I begin every VYVE session with stretching and movement. It changes people’s neuro- and bio-chemistry. In as little as five minutes. I get different community leaders to lead the stretch too. It’s just the right level of weirdness that creates a sense of permission in the room.

Stretching improves postures, reduces injury, increases our physical performance, and… raises attractiveness.


I BELIEVE IN—Tom

Tom Fortes Mayer is a mentor of mine and a revolutionary self-sabotage specialist. I just jumped off the phone with him and felt so empowered. His training is a hidden deal on the internet—designed for those who want to upgrade their minds and relationships with themselves.

I READ—Trust in America

The Decline of Trust in America. Atlantic.

Trust isn’t a virtue—it’s a measure of other people’s virtue.

I RESEARCHED—Epic Humans

Amy Giddon, CEO of Daily Haloha, a Global Gratitude App

Juno Parlange, CEO of Avalon Well-Being Academy.

Natasha Figueroa, Course Manager, Authentic Relating Training

Mia Magik, Founder of Witch School and Spirit Coach

WHO I'M FOLLOWING

I CHALLENGE YOU—Don’t Eat.

I want to challenge you to not eat for 24 hours. Train your mind and boost your metabolic flexibility. I did it for 60 hours.


GET SERIOUS. INVEST IN YOU.

JOIN MY INSIDER LIST to seriously master the art of creating joy, belonging, and community. You will receive private invitations to peer support sessions, networking circles, and masterclasses. Led by experts.


ONE REQUEST.

You practice generosity, you care about others, and you want to grow the human connection profession as I do.

Can you remind one human connection professional you care about their success and well-being by forwarding this email blog to them?

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Thank yourself for reading this, because your body and belonging matters, be-you-tiful.

Jacques W. Martiquet
International Party Scientist
BSc. Pharmacology

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